Rule of the heart:
Wholeness − looking at the collection of moments together and not at each moment at a time
The Implementation Tool:
During pregnancy you may have pleasant moments and some less pleasant moments. Examples are nausea, vomiting, seeing your fetus’ heart beat for the first time, feeling your baby kick.
If you study every moment separately, you might experience frequent mood swings which are not good for you, especially when you’re pregnant.
Adopt a ”global” view of things, look for pleasure as a whole and not just in certain moments.
Put things in proportion − a ZOOM OUT view. In a perspective of time your proportion changes:, look at your pregnancy period as a whole.
Remember similar cases where the view looks different when zoomed out.
If you’ve attended college, for example, you might remember the hard and late nights of studying you had to do to pass your exams. On the other hand, you probably had a lot of good moments too. You made new friends, went to parties and enjoyed being young and free.
Most people remember their childhood in this way, too. There were hard times even when you were young, but when you look at your childhood altogether it was probably very positive and full of good moments. Even hard times, such as breakups with boyfriends, have positive elements to them that you can only see when you zoom out.
Now go up to the ninth floor and look down and see the whole way you have come through.
Happiness is when the body, mind, and soul experience a sense of complete wholeness.
~ Ellen J. Barrier (Author)